When one goes to a party, and the women are chattering together animatedly at one end of the room and the menfolk are discussing technical issues or other serious matters down at the other end of the room, I hate that for two reasons. Firstly, there is no place for me in such a gathering, as the women's business bores me to tears, but if I should stray to the wrong end of the room for my gender, the womenfolk could well start giving me the evil eye, as they will assume I am out to make myself too popular with the husbands.
The other reason why I hate this is what it seems to reveal about heterosexual relationships. The men are so happy in their manly world, sharing manly interests such as machines, technology, politics and work with their man friends. The ladies seem to be even more delighted to dwell within the world of womanly interests such as people, kids, babies, workplace gossip, social gossip, home renovations and cooking with their female friends. This is the vast nation in which Oprah is the queen. So one has to start wondering, in this horribly polarized world, what holds these marriages together? It surely couldn't be shared interests. What do these couples discuss when they are alone together? Nothing very interesting one would think. Is there really much more to these marriages than shared commitments and jiggy-jiggy? No? I think that would be pretty lame.